The Areopagus 9-2-09

posted by Phil Lawson

We have a remarkable group of men at the parish who gather at the church very early every other Tuesday for Morning Prayer, a brief reflection, and breakfast.

Recently we talked about an article via Mike Aquilina, a Catholic known for his writings on the Church Fathers. He was asked to give a presentation on “The Secret to Being a Good Husband”—which when he asked his wife for suggestions, she simply laughed (affectionately, I hope!)

Anyway, he offered husbands some real practical advice, which I think is worth including here:
Sometimes we'll have to stay up all night with a crying baby and then get dressed and put on a happy face for work the next day. Sometimes the greatest sacrifice will be to change the diaper as soon as we're asked -- or better, before anyone else has noticed that it needs changing. Sometimes the greatest sacrifice of all will be to arrive home at the end of the day wearing a smile -- just because we know that a smile will make the house and the evening much brighter than the weary expression that more accurately reflects our day. We want our first thoughts to be for our spouse rather than for ourselves.
In marriage we should, as much as possible, sacrifice our desire to criticize, our urge to complain or whine. Here's a little trick I learned: if I feel the need to complain, I go to a quiet place and complain to the Blessed Virgin Mary. If I can look Mary in the eye (so to speak) and still bring myself to grumble about my wife, then maybe -- just maybe -- I have something legitimate to complain about. Most times, however, as soon as I approach that perfect wife and mother -- and even before I begin to formulate my prayer -- she shows me that the fault is mine and not Terri's.
On rare occasions, of course, I'm right in my grumbling. Even then I've found it a good policy to "complain" to Our Lady for at least two weeks before lodging the complaint with my wife. In the meantime Our Lady often will rush ahead and solve the problem for me, letting Terri know about it without my help. Other times Our Lady wins me the grace to live more patiently with the situation.
-From “The Spousal Secret” by Mike Aquilina via the Catholic Education Resource Center (CERC).
The part that really struck me was his comments on “complaining” to Mary. I suspect if I(we) followed his example, we’d have happier marriages, and less “foot in mouth” disease—at least among the male gender!

Phil’s Tidbits:

If you’ve seen the vocation video, “Fishers of Men”—aptly called the “best vocation video ever”—you’ll love this new 2 minute video by the same folks on the New York Ordinations this year, featuring Archbishop Dolan. It’ll send shivers up your spine and remind you what a great gift and mystery the priesthood is—especially pertinent in this the Year of the Priest:
Ordination2009 NYC Archbishop Dolan

The Pope’s recent encyclical, “Caritas In Vertate”—“charity in truth” was not penned solely for catholics, but to “all people of good will”. A group of Protestant leaders has issued a response, thanking Benedict for his words and encouraging their own communities to take up the themes raised in the encyclical.
68 Protestant Leaders Applaud Encyclical
Call on All Christians to Respond to "Caritas in Veritate"
WASHINGTON, D.C., AUG. 28, 2009 ( Benedict XVI's latest encyclical was lauded by 68 Evangelical Protestant community leaders from the United States, Canada, England, the Netherlands, Sri Lanka and New Zealand.
In a message released last month, titled "Doing the Truth in Love," a group of university leaders and professors, press editors and presidents of various institutions signed a message to "applaud" the Pope's encyclical, "Caritas in Veritate."
The message called on Christians everywhere to "read, wrestle with, and respond to 'Caritas in Veritate' and its identification of the twin call of love and truth upon our lives as citizens, entrepreneurs, workers and, most fundamentally, as followers of Christ."
It commended the way in which the encyclical "considers economic development in terms of the true trajectory for human flourishing."
The evangelicals echoed the call for "a new vision of development that recognizes the dignity of human life in its fullness, and that includes a concern for life from conception to natural death, for religious liberty, for the alleviation of poverty, and for the care of creation."
It concluded with a call for "serious dialogue among all Christians and with many others to make these goals practical realities."

God Bless you!
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